NEW GUIDE: Pitfalls to Avoid if Your Empty Nest Feels Lonely
“I hope when you come home to yourself ...there are flowers lining the front porch ...that were left from all the women you were before”
- MAIA
Give yourself permission to find YOUR happiness...
🕴🏿 Now that the kids are gone....Do you remember what YOUR dreams were before kids ?
🕴🏿 Do you recognize YOU ARE more than a mom, wife, significant other, sister or daughter ?
🕴🏿 Begin or continue, on your own journey to identify
yourSELF!
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Step One:
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If Not Now… When?
- When will you add YOU back into the mixture of those you take care?
- When will you find the dreams of the girl/woman you were before there were others?
- When will you replace those feelings of emptiness or being stuck?
- When will you let your heart/soul SOAR with internal happiness?
reDiscover Myself
Was Designed for
Women over Fifty-Five
- Who have no clue about what’s next in their lives.
- To provide a voice that says “You are not alone”.
- To help each woman define the Roots she needs to set down to establish her base: herself.
- To help women become Self Aware.
- To help find their Personal Happy Place .
- Now that the people they have spent their lives caring for stop needing so much of their time, blank places appear in these women’s life fabric.
All BEFORE getting a hobby, adopting a pet, or reconnecting with old friends, because none of these will truly fill the void until she becomes her own S-hero.
reDiscover Myself
Was Specifically Designed for YOU
(and here’s why) …
1. Ask and Answer the Question: What About Me?
- You spent your life juggling the best interest of your kid(s), your partner, your parents, and/or your grandparents, and always put you and your best interests on “later…when I have time”.
- There were schedules, appointments, activities, and a host of other stuff they needed, as planned or that came up at the last minute.
- You accommodated; you put in the work.
- They aged up and out; now they are gone, either to college, they graduated, or started their own lives in their own habitats.
- Some came back (especially after the pandemic imploded).
- You have found yourself with idle time. Sometimes a little or maybe a lot.
- Everyone still reaches out to you for answers and/or help.
- You have had just enough time to ask the question: What about me? What about what I want? Or need?
- They love you for sure. And would most likely do whatever you ask.
- The problem is…you have NOT really asked.
- You are going to have to put the brakes on your pattern of putting YOU on the back burner while you tend to all the others in your life.
2. Acknowledge this Fact: I Am Enough As I Am
- Beauties over the age of 50: Diane Lane, Viola Davis, Lorraine Toussaint, Emma Thompson, Jamie Lee Curtis, Angela Bassett, Ellen DeGeneres, Oprah, Jane Seymour, Ming-Na Wen…I could go on and on and on…
- Stop comparing yourself to whatever the media is showing you! Yes, these women are beautiful,
- BUT, SO ARE YOU!!!
- You MUST become your own “S”hero in your story.
- The first step is to look in the mirror, put your hands on your hips, and say out loud to you: “I AM ENOUGH AS I AM”. Say it again and again.
- Repeat on a daily basis.
- Do it when you feel down; do it when you feel great; do it because you went in the bathroom for a bio break.
- Do it because it is true!!
- Self-acceptance is the first part of self-empowerment. In order to find ourselves we must begin with self-love.
- Self-love enables us to embrace the perfect imperfections in ourselves and others.
- You and I must refuse to chase the perceived “perfection” of others and accept ourselves as the wonderful women we are, just as we are.
3. Recognize Your Built-In Worth
- Self-love, self-empowerment, self-confidence – all begin with “self”. We begin with ourselves: we go within.
- There lies the true limitless value of each of us: love. We know love is the source of our dignity, joy, and respect.
- However, sometimes we let others, including the media, dictate to us what we are worth by the things we have or don’t have & accomplishments we have achieved or not.
- We all need enough food, safe shelter, and a means to keep these items persistent. The size and name of any of these is not worthy of comment. Nor do any of these things tell our worth.
- Your gray hair, less than perfect or more than curvy body, with department store clothing does NOT make you less than in ANY scenario.
- Your inner love of self allows you to love the tiny perfections of less than perfect people, including yourself.
- YOU are PRICELESS!!
4. Honor Your Voice & Realize Your Opinion Counts
- You may have strong opinions about many things, like your family and the impact of the world on it.
- Or maybe you don’t really express your opinions out very openly, if at all.
- Either scenario could also include your opinion of your personal needs and wants are often hidden.
- In order to keep the peace, I would often just not mention something that I wanted to do, see, or participate in, because other members of my world had conflicts that were necessary.
- And I was the one needed to make their stuff happened.
- In this new empty nest world, I have had to get the courage up to say ‘NO’. My needs are necessary right now.
- I cannot take on your issue today or date requested.
- I am tired, I need rest, I have a lunch date, I have a mani/pedi appointment, I am going shopping for me, or I just planned on reading a book… your voice about your needs/wants count.
- Your opinion about not going to that particular function matters. Why? Because YOU said so!
5. Remember or Find What You Wanted Before There were Others
- At some point recently, you were looking for something to do that you have been waiting for a lifetime to get to. If you are like me, I realized I didn’t know what that was. I truly could not remember what my dreams were.
- I have spent my life pursuing the dream of a great life for my kids. And I did the very best I could. They are great.
- They had a good upbringing. I made mistakes, but I don’t regret them, because I always did what I believed to be in their best interests at the time.
- Still there are questions: what were my dreams?
- What did I want to do?
- What gave me joy or even what was I passionate about?
- Some of you know this answer.
- A little digging or looking at old pictures, meditation and/or quiet time, will allow you to look back to remember.
- Some of you, like me, did that and all that came up was taking care of family.
- Finding what makes you happy can be its own happy pursuit, if we accept what feels good to us, and put the expectations of what others think should make us happy on the back burner.
Conclusion
YOU are ready to begin finding yourself. The Gray Roots Society is a place where you get to rethink about you and your personal happiness, again or for the first time.
The pursuit of your happiness can be its own happy adventure.
Sit back and lets enjoy the journey of learning new things about ourselves together.
Let’s fall in love with ourselves!
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